Let's talk about something many of us grapple with—the feeling of being taken for granted. If I'm honest, some days, it hits harder than others.
Can you relate? You're constantly on the move, tackling tasks that weren't even on your priority list for the day. The phone rings, messages ping, emails flood your inbox—all requests from others seeking your time and attention. It's not the requests themselves that bother you; it's how they're presented, almost as if they're expected. This can sometimes lead to that sinking feeling—I'm being taken for granted, or I'm only valued for what I can do for them.
Of course, this is not healthy thinking, and it's likely not entirely accurate. But hey, we're human, and this emotion tends to intensify, especially during the holiday season.
So, what's the game plan?
Firstly, Celebrate Your Normal:
Remind yourself of a simple truth—what's normal often goes unnoticed because it becomes expected. Your day-to-day reliability and consistency may not always be applauded, but they form the backbone of your contribution.
Secondly, Embrace Your Goodness:
You're inundated with requests because you're dependable, faithful, and trustworthy. You're good at what you do, and that's precisely why people turn to you.
Thirdly, Patience Pays Off:
Just because they don't acknowledge it now doesn't mean they won't notice and appreciate your efforts later. Sometimes, the applause comes after the performance. And if appreciation doesn’t come, don’t allow the reaction of others to determine our identity. How they make you feel is not who you are.
A Critical Self-Check:
Pause for a moment and reflect. How many times have you been the person bombarding someone else with requests, expecting them to drop everything for you? In the rush of your own demands, did you show the appreciation you now desire?
Asking ourselves these questions is like a punch to the solar plexus. It forces us to confront our own blind spots. Why is it that we're quick to notice when others fall short but turn a blind eye when we do the same?
Especially during the holiday hustle, let's lead by example. Take a moment to express gratitude and celebrate those who serve you. It's a simple yet powerful act that can break the cycle of feeling underappreciated.
So, dear friend, as you navigate the bustling holiday season, remember this: you're not alone in feeling unnoticed. But you have the power to shift the narrative. Acknowledge your worth, celebrate your reliability, and set the tone for a culture of appreciation.
In Celebration and Gratitude,
P.S.Be the beacon of appreciation. Your acknowledgment can be the greatest gift you give and receive this season. Give generously and keep shining! 🌟