Handle hard better

Hey friends,

There’s a phrase I used to repeat to myself more often than I’d like to admit:

"It’ll get easier after..."

After the kids are older.
After the next big order comes in.
After the busy season slows down.
After the next milestone is hit.

But a while back, I came across something that stopped me in my tracks—a quote from Jim Rohn, where he said, “Don’t wish for life to get easier, wish you were better.”

Then, I recently heard a similar quote from Coach Cara Lawson of Duke Women’s Basketball. She said:

“It will never get easier. What will happen is that you will handle hard stuff better.”

And something about both of those totally flipped the script for me.  Because, well… it’s true.

The Truth Is, Hard Is Part of the Deal.

Whether you’re raising kids, building a business, leading a team, or trying to live out your faith day by day—hard is baked into the process.

But what I’m learning—and I’m still learning—is that waiting for things to get easier is a trap. It keeps us stuck. Keeps us discouraged.
And maybe even makes us feel like something must be wrong with us because we’re still finding it tough.

But here’s the good news: It’s hard for everyone.
You’re not broken. You’re just becoming.

I don’t have this all figured out, not even close. But I’m trying. And these three shifts have helped me more than I can say:

1️⃣ Win What’s Next

Sometimes life feels like too much. So don’t try to win the whole season. Just win today.

Don’t fix the whole future—just take the next faithful step.
Jesus said not to worry about tomorrow—today has enough on its own. And grace for just today is more than enough.

2️⃣ Entrench Support

This one is everything. Life is too hard to do alone. Good thing you were never meant to do this life solo.
I’ve been incredibly blessed with people who remind me of truth when I’m overwhelmed—mentors, friends, my wife, our community.
If you don’t have that yet, find one person. Someone who will speak life into your hard places.

3️⃣ Reframe Failure

This one hits close to home.
I’ve faced things that didn’t work. Doors that didn’t open. Moments that made me want to throw in the towel.
But I’ve learned—slowly—that failure isn’t fatal. It’s feedback. It’s where the growth happens.
It’s God saying, “I’m not done with you yet.”

Out of those three, the one I still wrestle with most is #3 – Embracing Failure.

I don’t like falling short. I don’t like messing up. But I’m learning that those are the very moments that make me stronger, more faithful, and a whole lot more dependent on God.

President Kennedy said it best:

“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”

So here’s what I’m holding onto right now: I’m not waiting for easier. I’m just learning how to grow stronger. With God’s help. With your support. And with purpose in every step.

Which shift do you need to lean into right now?
1. Win What’s Next – Focus Forward. Do the next right thing.
2. Entrench Support – Surround yourself with people who believe in your mission.
3. Reframe Failure – See mistakes as momentum. Feedback is fertilizer for growth.

Let me know in the comment section below.  Your story might be the encouragement someone else needs to keep going today.

With gratitude and grit,

Brock

P.S. Don’t wait for life to get easier. Instead, let’s become the kind of people who do hard things well—with joy, faith, and purpose. The world needs what only YOU can bring.

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